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Thursday, March 31 2011

Vaginal Orgasm Alert

Question: I’m a 33-year-old woman who has never had an orgasm during intercourse. Is there something wrong with me? Am I missing out?

Answer: Hell no, or maybe so. Truthfully, most women (almost 70% of us) don’t orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. And those who do, I believe, have a physical anatomy that makes it easier for them to orgasm by stimulating the clitoral network without actually touching the clitoris. That being said, a recent ridiculous study on why women orgasm during penetration, says it’s the size, or more accurately the length, of his penis that makes a big difference.

I call bullsh-t on that one, because most women would say thick is better than long, but that’s neither the tip or the point here. The point being - nothing is wrong with you, and you’re only missing out because you think you’re missing out. If you’re happy with the orgasms you’ve been having, delight in the squeals of pleasure you can produce. As someone who mainly (TMI alert) orgasms with the aid of clitoral stimulation, preferably in a circular motion, but who has also orgasmed without said aid, I don’t feel like those penetrative orgasms are the ones I want to write home about, if indeed I chose to write home about my orgasms. That’s just me. I’ve been there, done that, and I can say the clitoris is the real deal.

If you want to try orgasms during penetration, try grinding instead of pumping. There are more nerve endings towards the entrance of the vagina than near the cervix, and more sensation produces more sensation.

In the interim, don’t worry about where you’re orgasms originate and (Velveeta alert) celebrate yourself and your orgasms.

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2 Responses to “Vaginal Orgasm Alert”

  1. Rikochan Says:

    I can come either way. I def do have a slightly unusual anatomy that means that I can get clit stimulation in just about any postition, however. But it’s definitely about the grinding for me, not the pumping-I have never come from just pumping.

  2. Nancy Says:

    Sound advice there. Some couples find something as simple as a cock ring can assist with bringing women to orgasm during penetrative sex. Again, that grinding action works better than thrusting. The c-ring gives you something to rub up against, and can also boost a man’s erectile strength, which all helps (and feels great!).

    You can also try holding a little vibe to your clit for additional stimulation if you don’t feel co-ordinated enough for manual clit stim during penetration.

    Essentially as Jamye said, you improve your chances of orgasm by increasing clitoral stimulation during penetration, by whatever means. Good luck, and have lots of fun trying.

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