With travel this week, the blog schedule is a little out of whack, or wax, perhaps. I promise to return with the Hot Sox podcast by next Friday (at the latest). In the meantime, here’s what would have been yesterday’s sex advice, if my flight to Tucson hadn’t been so delayed (ah, blame, sometimes it makes for an easy excuse).

Question: I’m looking for any one tip or technique you can give me to make my mediocre sex life a little less mediocre?

Answer: I’m going to keep this short, because the longer answer involves “there’s not one thing you can do for your relationship to take it from average to awesome.”

Still, I get asked this question a lot, and this is the first thing that always comes to mind.  Before I reveal what “this” is, I will say, while it’s not the be all,end all, having “it” and believing “it’s” worth it, can make a heck-of-a-lot of difference in how you have sex. Remember, sometimes you’ve got to fake it til you make it (and if you can’t even fester up the desire to do that, then wait until you can).

The key, if you don’t want what you describe as your “mediocre” sex life anymore, is to get into the mindset that you are totally excited for your new sexpedition.

That “one” thing that could help?

Be in the moment, and be totally excited to be there.

It’s called enthusiasm.