50 Reasons to Masturbate


We’re full swing into Masturbation May, and as a self-love enthusiast, and the author of Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation, I present you with 50 reasons to rub the nub, beat the meat, polish the pearl or spank the monkey.

  1. If you can’t love yourself, how can you love anybody else? And how can anybody else know how to love you?
  2. Once you know what turns you on, you can show others how to do it too.
  3. “Masturbation is sex with someone you love.” – Woody Allen
  4. One of the best dances is the rock around the clit. The most popular spots are 2 and 10:00.
  5. Masturbation is fun.
  6. Masturbating before sex can help him last longer during intercourse.
  7. Masturbation releases oxytocin and this makes you sleepy. If you’re trying to fall asleep, that’s a good thing.
  8. Endorphins! Endorphins! Endorphins! Just saying it makes me feel good.
  9. Masturbation is cheaper than 18 years of child support, meaning nobody gets pregnant.
  10. A first orgasm makes it easier to have more orgasms!

Read the rest of the reasons at my Lovers blog.

Evi: A Hands-Free Sex Toy Review

It’s been a long time since I’ve done a video blog, and that’s because nothing has lit a fire of inspiration under my ass like the Evi by Aneros.   This HANDS-FREE kegel exerciser is hands down the best non-vibrating sex toy I’ve ever tried, especially because you don’t needs hands to use it. The shape rocks, literally, and it’s never been easier for me to understand just how to work my pelvic floor muscles than when Evi is inside me.


Sex Toy Review: Fairy Baby Vibe

Meet the Fairy Baby, a teeny-tiny wand-like vibrator that recharges via USB cord. Fairy Baby is part of MerciToys line of Fairy Wand toys and attachements, and it’s tiny enough for even your Barbie to use. Okay, that’s weird, but I said it in the video and I wrote it here, so I admit to a having a weird Barbie sex fascination. Like how do they do it, when he’s so flat and she has no holes?

Watch my review here, or below:


Sex Toy: Simply Blown Glass Dildo

It had been years before I realized I had left my specially picked (not the one above) Simply Blown green glass dildo behind. Back in the day, before Simply Blown had as many styles and colors to choose from, I was offered my very own glass didlo. I had never owned my own molten crystal glass dildo (that word molten makes me wet), and the thought that I could own it in green! green! made me very happy. Although I guess not that happy, since years went by, and I forgot all about it. Then, about three weeks ago I thought, “where is that glass dildo that those guys at Simply Blown gave me. I have no idea.”  It had been years since I’d seen it, and I have never even used it. Thoughts are powerful and just last week, whilst podcasting at my dear friend Fifi Jingles home, we started to talk about her arsenal of sex toys. She offered to show me her stash, and right there, smack dab in the middle of her stash, she pulled out a Simply Blown green glass dildo. She explained how I left it at her house for fear of breakage (silly fear, it’s a tough toy) and I had forgotten to come and reclaim it.

So reclaim I did. Last night I spent some quality time with the toy, and all I can say is WOW. I’m not normally an insert-something-inside-myself-while-masturbating masturbator, but that’s about to change. Using the glass toy really helped me learn about the build up of my arousal process. And I ejaculated a ton. That was fun. Watch more, and then go get your own glass dildo. Simply Blown makes lots of shapes and sizes (and toys for your bum too).

Watch the video on my youtube channel (I can’t get it to embed here anymore, why?!!!!)

Buy Simply Blown glass here too.

Sex Advice: Kitchen Aids

Question: I would love to explore my kinky side, but can’t fork out lots of money for rope and paddles. Any ideas of what I can use around the house instead?

Answer: Thanks to my friend Jaeleen over at Bondassage, I’ve started to think of the whole house as a one-stop shop loaded with erotic accessories.

The kitchen is a fabulous place for kinky goodness and you can likely use things you already have, as long as you use your kitchen for more than take out. A fork can make for a great pointy or skin-raking device. A silicone spatula, or any spatula really, can be used for spanking. You can also try a wooden spoon. If you’ve got an apron you can use that to carry your implements around (naked underneath of course), or use it to tie someone up. Or use a men’s tie for bondage. A whisk can also make for interesting sensation play.

A clean Feather Duster can be fun for soft sensations, and an electric toothbrush (the inexpensive, disposable kind) works well on nipples and other erogenous areas.  A sleep mask is great for removing sight from the equation, and there’s a whole lot more you can feel when you can’t see.

This list is small, and just a start, but I’m sure you can figure out other objects that will work now too. Be creative, clean your implements and enjoy the experimentation.

Sex Toy: We-Vibe Tango

This week’s sex product review is the We-Vibe Tango. Waterproof, long-lasting (2 hours of play on a single charge), plus it’ll rapidly recharge, and look good doing it. It doesn’t have to take two (people) to tango, but it can!

Watch the video here.

Buy We-Vibe’s Tango.

Custom Sex Toys

Question: I’m looking for the perfect sex toy, but I have found anything made in the way I want. Do companies do custom orders?

MTP = Made to Pleasure

Answer: Absolutely, and it depends what you’re looking for. For doing it yourself, you can always clone-a-willy (and some of their kits come with vibration). However if you want it made for you, I’ve recently stumbled across Made to Pleasure (thx Regina Lynn), a site devoted to selling you a host of custom-made, quality sensual instruments in sexy materials. They are pricey (in pounds) and ship out of England, but they can be finished in acrylic, gold or silver. If you’ve got the itch for a custom fit, play around in their made to measure boutique and see what you can create.

If glass is what you’re looking for, while he doesn’t specialize in custom orders, if you contacted the man behind Simply Blown, you may be able to have it your way…for a price. He is a glass blower by trade, so it’s not out of the realm of possibility.

For sex machines, check out Ken’s Twisted Mind. If you dream it, the man says he can build it. I also found a site that does inexpensive custom made toys, but I can’t recommend them highly at all since the material they use is low quality. However, to be fair, and since you asked TSX-Toys with it’s disturbing array of products including a three-penis head anal toy and an unidentifiable vibrating pink mess known as the autorerotica, does make custom products allowing you to choose the color, design and even add your own label. They do say they’re phthalate free, which is nice, but I’m not sure I wouldn’t use a condom over these products.

Happy humping and hunting!

Romancing the Stone

I have always been inspired by my dear college-friend, MaryBeth, and today is no different. That’s because together, with her loving partner, she has created a line of stone object d’art and sexe that make me clap my hands and say yeah. And while, full disclosure, I have not tried or touched them, the fact that stone dildos have been popular for centuries makes this sex product an easy sell. Plus, I trust her. And I know that stone cold, or hot, can be more fun than wrestling Steve Austin (get it? Stone Cold Steve Austin? is that a good one?).

The Ishtar

If you want to know more, check out their etsy store. It has three different stone dildos. They call it Ital Stone and describe it as “hand carved artisan soapstone for personal pleasure and sensual healing.”

For those who haven’t tried stone in your be-low holes before, here are some reasons why you can, and would, enjoy these hand-carved pieces of happy:

  • Heat it or cool it. Ital Stone can go with the temperature flow for at least one 1/2 hour.
  • Safe and sterile so share away! Boiling water sterilizes the stone, while organic oils will help it slide on in there.
  • Created by parents for people with, and without, children. That means they thought about what having a baby can do to her vulva, and created these products so that women can once again find awareness and strength after childbirth.
  • If you believe in magic…each of their pieces are cleansed with Himilayan Sea Salt and charged under the full moon.

Whatever the reason, if you’re looking to buy a nice toy for your body, or somebody else, don’t overlook romancing the stone.

Sex Review: Most Powerful Tool Ever!

All I have to say is that you too can use the most powerful sex tool because you already own it. Better still, it’s free of charge.

If you can’t see video, watch it here

Sex Toy: Tickler Vibes

Today’s sex toy review is The Tickler Vibes (specifically the Bunny one). Enough said, below…

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