Toying with Tuesday: Bzzz Buddies

Check back every Tuesday for a new Toying with Tuesday video review. This week’s review: The Bzzz Buddies line of adorable pocket rockets. And yes, they aren’t just cute, they’re dang powerful too.

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So Last Week .56

Another celebrity filled so last week, sex news you may have missed starts off with Lindsay Lohan out as Deep Throat’s Linda Lovelace. John Travolta’s gay bath house life is put in print and Charlie Sheen sues the porn actress who spent that last famous night with him. Of course, there’s more…

Hot Sox: Recycled Sex

can’t…make…picture…rotate…however, the latest hot sox podcast is up and it’s all about recycled sex. That’s the term I use for being all environmental and sex in a long term relationship. If you listen to the whole podcast, you’ll know more about this dress.

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Here’s the description for this week’s podcast:

When it comes to the long, and the short, of it - relationships take work. Join relationship experts Ian and Alicia Denchasy (Freddy and Eddy) as they discuss Tron, Hollywood romance and simple solutions for getting imaginative in your long-term relationship. How do these lovebirds make their 22 year old relationship flourish? From communication to action, and sexy times too, listen as this beloved couple shares wisdom, laughter and their experiences on how to have recycled sex with the Hot Sox audience.


To all my peeps in the U S of A, happy Thanksgiving.

There are so many things to be grateful for every day, and I’m always reminded of the blessings in my life, especially when driving around certain parts of Los Angeles. Today, for instance, I saw a half naked man literally putting his pants on at the corner of LaBrea and Pico Blvd. and I thought, I’m so thankful, and lucky, to have a home to put my pants on in.

I’m thankful for lots. Friends. Family. Sun. Being alive. Laughter. Anyone who has ever taught me a thing or two, or who has touched my life, or let me touch their life too. While the list goes on, and on, and on…in staying topical, or at least trying to, I’ve decided to do another list (because oh my, how I love lists!) about the things about sex (wide definition here, people) that I’m thankful for.

  1. The moment of insertion in intercourse when his penis, a dildo, finger, condomed vegetable or what-not first slides into the vagina. Oh my, what a lovely moment.
  2. Kissing. Starting out soft and slow and working up to those mind-blowing-hot-tongue-action type of transactions.
  3. Heavy petting, even just the thought of it.
  4. Silicone lube for having no taste and lasting long time.
  5. The passionate people with the small companies who make sex toys because they love sex and design and/or tech stuff too.
  6. The equal opportunity pure wand.
  7. The pioneering women who made it possible for me to work in this field and not feel weird about it, with a special shout out to one of my favorite people in the ENTIRE universe, Candida Royalle.
  8. The Eroscillator. For making me orgasm more often than any other sex toy ever has.
  9. The baby step the Vatican made in saying that condoms are “the lesser of two evils when used to curb the spread of AIDS, even if their use prevents a pregnancy. (Yahoo)
  10. Queefing and other gentle, and not-so gentle, reminders that sex doesn’t always sound, look or feel like what you see in Hollywood movies, or (thank-goddess) in a lot of porn.
  11. That sex can sometimes take you away from your life and other times bring you right back down to earth.

In honor of my nomination…

Since my video 101 Positions For Lovers (you can buy it directly from me on the media page of my site, or use the HOT SOX coupon code at was nominated for an AVN award for best sex education video this year, I had to say it:

Sex During Dethaw

What a sexy bird! I can even see its gizzards. Ooh la la….

If I’m up and heading to a gym class, I listen to Carson Daly in the mornings. He’s on a station called AMP out here in the city of angels, and while it says it plays all the hits, I like that it plays all the hip-hop and dance I can sing my heart out too. Today, while driving to a ridiculously early spin class at 6:30am, Carson, along with producer Angie, were talking turkey. I never liked turkey, the white meat tasted too dry (was that just the way my mother made it?) and the dark meat, well, that was too meaty and slimy. I’ve been a vegetarian since I was 13, so you have to understand (or not) that I just never liked the taste of meat. Unless it’s man meat. Because I know, someone, somewhere will read this and wonder if I mean all meat, or just the kind that I can chew up before swallowing.

This morning a nice Yamaguchi lady from Whole Foods on 3rd and Fairfax was giving tips on how to pick and make a turkey (1 - 1.5 lbs per human adult consuming said meat). She also said that if you buy a frozen turkey, you need to dethaw it for two days before you cook it. That means take it out of the freezer TODAY and put it in the refrigerator. So I thought that while you wait, slowly, for that hunk of light and dark bird to make it’s way from solid to solid, I’m offering five of my own silly (and sexy) tidbits for you to pass some of the long-ass time it takes for this bird to dethaw.

  1. Get naked like your turkey and baste yourself in oil. Place a tarp on the floor (wood or linoleum) and have a sexy wrestling match with someone you want to gobble up.
  2. Have sex in any animal style position (like doggie I suppose).
  3. Re-enact  your favorite Thanksgiving fight scene. Wear a pilgrim, cowboy or Indian costume and make war before you make love.
  4. Place a timer in your bedroom and give yourself a set amount of time to get warmed up and then get cookin’ (that’s my euphemism for getting love). And then when the timer dings, no matter how done you are, you’re done.
  5. Whisper sweet gobbles into your lover’s ear.

However you decide to spend your time dethawing your turkey, know that there’s no time like right now (head to the bathroom, bedroom, car, pay per hour hotel suite) to get in some dethawing of your own (what does that even mean?)

So Last Week .55

This week’s so last week, sex news you may have missed has politicians in Spain moaning while in China, seniors aren’t supposed to do the same. Plus the new Playboy, a safer sex PSA featuring Brisol Palin and the Sitch and one way to get over the family vacation.

  • The Spanish orgasm video heard round the web brings moans from politicians. (Metro)
  • WTF? and OMG! I get it, and yes, I like talking like that sometimes. Bristol Palin and the “Sitch” discuss pausing before play in this safer sex PSA. (LATimes)
  • Playboy goes soft. (NYTimes)
  • The secret struggle of sex-starved seniors. In China. (GlobalTimes)
  • Texas Woman Found Half-Naked with Sex Toys and Loaded Gun in Naperville Motel Parking Lot while children did something else to entertain themselves in room. (HuffingtonPost)
  • Why men fake orgasms too. (TheWeek)
  • Vulvectomy. Not a pretty word, and not a pretty procedure. Especially for one woman who had no idea she was about to lose her clitoris. (
  • Women with sensitive fingers more likely to have vaginal orgasms. (msnbc)
  • Sex research is alive and well (see above), even if the actual sex isn’t. (LasVegasWeekly)
  • Sexting to Splitsville. The Eva Longoria/Tony Parker story to end in divorce. (NYDailyNews)
  • Porn in a cup. What does that mean, really? (Reuters)

Feeling Men

Is it true that most men are emotionally unavailable? I feel like I live in a world where I meet men who can show emotion, even though that doesn’t make them any more available to me. Is this true? Are men out of touch with their feelings most of the time? Men, do you need help with your feeling words because all you know is happy and mad?

That’s what she said:

Tonight at El Cid

Sexy Tales and Other Intimate Acts. $8 at the door. I’m hosting this event TONIGHT at El Cid.

featuring: Gram Ponante. Fogelfoot. Freddy and Eddy. Deanna Neil. Destin Gerek. Morty Diamond. Barbie Davenporte. Suzy LeeLo, Kelly Shibari, April Flores and more! more! more!

So Last Week .55

In this week’s sex news you may have missed, why men these days are a sad excuse for manly. One woman show’s how a sex toy can be used as a weapon and Alec Baldwin gives advice on how to properly handle your bitter divorce. No, really, it’s all last week, on so last week.

  • Why men these days are the “sorriest cohort of masculine Homo sapiens to ever walk the planet.” (Salon)
  • And it’s not because men fake orgasms too. (FoxNews)
  • Assault with a deadly sex toy. (TheSmokingGun)
  • A drive-thru sex toy window in Alabama. God bless Sherri Williams. (Asylum)
  • Alec Baldwin dishes advice on divorce. (HuffingtonPost)
  • Is the e-marriage the next big thing for same sex couples? (Time)
  • Christine O’Donnell, the anti-masturbation witch still has a few minutes left on her 15 of fame. (DailyCaller)
  • Zero percent of lesbian moms beat their kids, while daughters of lesbian parents are more likely to be bisexual. At least that’s what this small survey says. (SFGate)
  • How a Sex Pistols T-shirt got one girl suspended from school. (AVN)
  • The Pool Noodle and other gross things guys do. (TheFrisky)
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