The G-spot: Fact or Friction

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Last week the LA Times ran this story on the existence of the G-spot (also called the Sacred Spot in Tantric and Taoist practices). Comparing it to the Loch Ness Monster or the Abominable Snowman, the Times reporter wrote that it’s easier to talk about finding the G-spot than to actually find it, and while she’s not sure of its existence, I think that’s missing the point, or rather the spot.

The G-spot exists for women - most women - whether or not it works for them. Let’s think of it like ice cream. Some of us like chocolate, others prefer vanilla and still some of us can’t eat any of it because we’re lactose intolerant. Whatever type of ice cream you like, it’s not like you need ice cream to live, but it tastes good to eat. That’s what a G-spot massage is like. Not necessary, but an indulgence - one that some of us choose to discover, and others of us don’t. We’re all pretty similar in our biological makeup, but not identical. Some of us get off from penetration, some of us don’t, just like some women get off when something hard, soft, big or little is placed inside her vagina, and again, some of us don’t. In fact, less women get off from penetration than from direct clitoral stimulation, but still when society and the media think of the “ultimate orgasm” we often think that it means something should be inside of us.

The G-spot isn’t necessarily a spot, it’s more of a cluster and you feel it through the top wall of the vagina (it’s the urethral sponge, which is in the urethra, but you don’t want to go in the urethra to find it, or anything, for that matter). Stimulating that can, yes, lead to the sensation of having to “make water” (as Ms. Daisy would say) but it’s also one of the places in the vagina that is highly sensitive for some women, however, all women should be highly aroused before you even think about touching the spot. The article quotes research on a group of cadavers (and then yes, on live bodies) but you can’t do research on the G-spot of a cadaver and get the same results as you would if you looked at the real, live arousal of a healthy, horny and rearing-to-go gal.

When women, ones that were still alive, were prodded, researchers noticed:

Some women have extra-thick, sensitive, different tissue in the front wall of the vagina, whose stimulation can lead to vaginal orgasms. Other women don’t. (Call it a G spot if you like, he says; until there’s a formal definition, the label is more about marketing than science.)

Yes, the label is all about marketing, but that’s the world we live in. One where we try to label everything…whether it be an animal, vegetable or our own sexual hot buttons. So, what’s the point of all this? It’s a reminder to each G-spot owner, and G-spot stimulator, that there are plenty of places to press inside, and outside, her body to turn her on. That for those of us who don’t get off on G-spot stimulation, but not necessarily because we don’t have one, even if it’s not as thick as some others, there are still fun places to poke around. Sure, the G-spot may or may not do it for the lady in your life (or for you in your life as a lady) but whether it’s her hot button or not, sexual experimentation is fun. And if searching for the G-spot leads you to play around more, than keep searching and you shall find something…or play with.