HNT: mY new bedspread

my new bedspread: as cheesy as I wanna be.

My Grandma’s Uniboob

When I was 8, I learned a secret about my grandmother. At the time I thought it was a secret that I couldn’t share, but now I don’t think it’s unshareable. In fact, if it reminds someone to check in with their life, then it’s worth sharing.

My grandmother has one breast. A uniboob.

Shirley was 50 when she discovered her lump. Her very own lump, as if she wanted to keep a dark ball of cancer close to her heart and scream “mine, mine, mine” but regardless, it was the gift she received. Her sisters were both dead because of their own lumps, one at the age of 32 and one twenty years later.

Ironically, or maybe because checking her own breasts had been implanted in her mind the day before, my grandmother found “the cantz-uh” one day after a regularly scheduled trip to the gynecologist. The day after the doctor never found the lump he had trained my grandmother to look for. Doctors are only human, which is the point, since I have both a brother and sister who happen to be them, and who I know, for a fact, growing up, made mistakes. Humans miss things, even doctor humans, and this was one of those not-rare-at-all times. She didn’t take chemo, nor radiation, just chopped the boob right off and sewed it back up. And she’s still her today, 32 years later.

At first I didn’t know what to make of my grandma’s uniboob. I thought it was strange. Secret. That she was the only one. I didn’t think it could be this badge of courage, and awareness, but now I know it is. My grandmother took matters into her own hands, and I’m really proud of her for doing it. For both finding her lump and for reminding me that checking for lumps is something I need to do on a regular basis.  So I check myself, and this month, this Breast Cancer Awareness month which ends at the end of October (although we can remind each other all year long if you’d like) I hope you’ll remember to check yourself too.


Information on how and when is the best time to check yourself (

Video on How to Examine Your Breasts (not exciting, but thorough)

So Last Week .01

Every Monday, from now until I decide to stop doing it on Monday’s, you’ll get the sex news that mattered last week delivered fresh to your inbox this week. Some of it is still worth reading, if you haven’t read it already. Especially this weeks NYMag section devoted to foreskin. Fascinating.
  • NY Magazines whole section devoted to circumcision. It’s called For and Against Foreskin. (NYMag)
  • When talking sex gets a 22 year old Saudi woman 60 lashes, its a reminder that the times are still behind us. (NY Times)
  • Condoms play catch up with pill for 1 in 4 women. (TimesOnline)
  • Stolen bag of sex toys isn’t really a stolen bag of sex toys but somehow because it could have been stolen bag of sex toys it has made the news. If you want to make the news, just tell the police you have a bag of sex toys that you would like to report missing. And then list them. (UPI)
  • Armpit Orgasms. Just ask Veronica Mittnacht. (TheFasterTimes)

How to use pillows: A 101 guide to propping up your sex life

Some days you feel like a nut, and some days you are..

Dueling Shower Heads

I have the coolest shower on the block in my new LA apartment, and I just had to brag share it with you!

Have suggestions with what to do in the shower?
More shower videos coming soon (I think, I mean how can I not, right?)

Kegel Exercises: A Gentle Push

New video from LA today.

What are your PC muscles? Technically, they’re your pubococcygeus muscle, your levator ani, or your pelvic floor muscles. Find them by stopping and starting the flow of your pee (guys and girls both), or ladies, place a finger in your vagina and squeeze to feel them tighten around you. You want to exercise these muscles for bigger, better orgasms, to help improve your odds against urinary incontinence and to strengthen your vaginal muscles for help during and after childbirth.

That’s the quick version. Are you squeezing yet?

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