I first met Deborah Kagan while living in LA. She creates sacred, sensual interiors for people to live and love in. For me, it was an instant connection and if you’ve ever been in a room with Deborah, you know what I mean. For those who know me, and know that I like sparkle, all I can say is Deborah sparkles too. And ever since I’ve known her she’s been moving and shaking and shaking and baking (is shake and bake even still around…answer…yes) and making things happen.

I’m honored to be a part of her latest project, the Sensually Empowered Woman Summer Sizzle Interview Series! It’s a four day series taught by 10 experts designed to give you practical information and easy, effective tips so that you have the tools and permission to thrive in your relationships and s.e.x life.

It’s all being put together under one virtual roof during the week of June 4-7^th.  It’s four days of raw, no holds barred, top relationship and s.e.x advice dished out by myself and other experts in the field.

Best part…it’s free!

What’s next? It’s time to sign up now..click here to reserve your complimentary spot. (My class on self-love is on June 7th at 1pm PST, but you don’t want to miss any of the amazing speakers including my friends Barbara Carrellas, Amy Jo Goddard, Reid Mihalko and Ali Binazir.

Lets us stoke your fire, poke your brain and pop your cherry.  Personally, I can’t think of a better way to kick off summer!

Nick and Ash. Just a few of Garren James Cowboys4Angels

In this week’s Hot Sox podcast, I talk with Garren James, the CEO of Cowboys4Angels, a male escort service catering to straight women who are looking for a no BS way of enjoying the company of a fine man. The site doesn’t offer sex as a service, but it’s uhm….not unlikely that his men can’t service you (like the double negatives). This goes for women and couples into cuckolding. Or even couples not into cuckolding. The point is, Garren James is a businessman providing the ultimate gentleman experience. Hear how Tyra Banks helped make him who he is today, and why ladies love him…and his cowboys.

Just a gigolo? Oh no…

Listen on my site here or via itunes.

Watch Garren on the Tyra Banks Show here.

In this week’s So Last Week, Sex News You May Have Missed: Does a vibrator’s design lead to more orgasms? Is cheating rational? Kitty Stryker is a sex worker in love. Bedsider reveals an estrogen-free vaginal ring and butt plugs reveal the popularity of Republican candidates for President.

So yesterday: Bay to Breakers, SF (I’m in the middle photo, in between the passed out couple and Beaker, with Fleur de Lis).

• Can a better vibrator inspire more awesome sex? (TheAtlantic)
• Does focusing on the problem of cheating distract us from the problem of monogamy? (HuffPo)
• You can be a sex worker in love (and a very eloquent one at that). (HuffPo)
• What’s that in between your thighs? It’s an estrogen-free vaginal ring. (Bedsider)
• From where doth beauty come? Is it a look or an act? (TheGuardian)
• Can the BS get over the BS? Oh boy…scouts. Lesbian cub leader fired for being gay.  (ABCNews)
• The Republican presidential race, through the lens of the butt plug. (Vimeo)
• This makes me think we need to have some humans spayed and neutered: After having 30 kids with 11 different women (twice he had 4 children in one year) Desmond Hatchett asks for a child-support break. (LATimes)
• Priscilla Chan is the new Mrs. Mark Zuckerberg, but who is Priscilla Chan? (DailyMail)
• I want to see this, but I know I won’t stop crying. Austria’s Michael Haneke’s new film “Amour” tackles the deterioration of love. (Reuters)
• In other words, Raven Symone says my sexuality ain’t none of your dang business. (MTV)

It’s the international edition of So Last Week with a tale-o-gender-identity happy from Argentina, and a plea from the British about sex. Plus, Obama and same sex marriage, a playa case (for all safer sex sluts out there) and remembering a friend and partner in sex-positivity, Shannon Collins.

So last week: I graduated from SFSI. A lonely panda. My friend Kate‘s sculpture is up in Hayes Valley.

• “This is truly a human right: the right to happiness.” Argentina’s new gender identity law says be the gender you want to be. (Feministing)
• Obama’s same sex marriage stance sends conservative panties into a bunch. (WashPost)
• Tennessee tries to ban gateway sex. (ABCNews)
• The playa case, for those who want protection from their cell phone. (Brit.co)
• RIP Shannon Collins. A senseless murder of a wonderful woman and sex positive shop owner. Support Camouflage if you can. (SantaCruzSentinel)
• 70 year-old virgin finally ready for baum-chick-uh-baum-baum. (Dailymail)
• More sex please, we’re British. (HuffPo)
• 10 mistakes people make to destroy their sex lives. My favorite two, letting themselves go and devaluing or inflating the importance of sex. So true. So true. (ivillage.ca)
• Is sexual training only a US thing? Keep spreading the love. (yahoo.uk)
• Is masturbation boring? Try something new. (GoodVibesBlog)
• After porn ends, a new mainstream documentary on the life of former and future “civilians.” (Xbiz)

me and ian. ian and alicia.

I realize that the title of my latest podcast (a podcast that consists of me talking with myself and then skyping with my friend and fellow podcast maker, Ian Denchasy) is totally unsexy to a lot of people. It’s called Marriage, Love, Babies and Mating. And even though I want these things - although marriage I can live without, unless it’s understood to be a business - I’m not a big fan of the title. But I’m lazy today so, it’s staying. (Actually, I’m not lazy, I just don’t care that much).  I think Ian’s views on marriage are really interesting. And after having been married 23 plus years, the best part of this podcast is what he has to say. So listen for that, and forgive me and my unsexy title.

Listen on my site here or via itunes.

In this week’s sex news you may have missed, pronouns predict dating success. Joe Biden is good to go on gay marriage. The Origins of Sex. The striking contrast in the urgency of treating male sexual dysfunction and enhancing female sexual pleasure. Dan Savage and vagina. It’s all so last week.

• To predict dating success, the secret’s in the pronouns. (NPR)
• Vice President Joe Biden supports marriage equality on Meet the Press. (Advocate)
• Quiet down vaginas, the boners are talking. A humorous (and serious) look at the contrast in urgency between curing male sexual dysfunction and helping women have more satisfying sexual experiences. (Jezebel)
• The origins of sex. A book and oh, so much more. (NYT)
• Arizona bans funding of planned parenthood. (CNN)
• A transgender woman murdered in Oakland and nobody makes a peep. (DailyKos)
• The flip out over Dan Savage and the bible and what’s really uncomfortable about the whole debacle. (Slate)
• On the other side of Savage love — is Dan Savage the Gay Santorum? (DailyBeast)
• 10 Lessons about the female orgasm via @mysexprofessor (Mens Health).
• Porn panic: A snarky piece on adult entertainment that asks the question, “What about vaginas, or penises? Teenage children have these things so presumably aren’t particularly traumatized by just seeing them. Is it the insertion of the penis into the vagina that causes the harm, or is it the love and care with which the insertion occurs?” (Guardian)
• Republicans — get in my vagina. #GOPVagina (Funnyordie)