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Oral Sex
On Gagging

Sex Toys
Toys for Boys

Relationships
Did I Cheat?

Anatomy
Increasing Penis Size

After Sex
After Sex Clean-Up

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Man Thong

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Man Thong

When my fiancée surprised me with my first piece of sexy lingerie, he knew I’d be nervous about how I looked in it. So, after handing me my present, he removed his bathrobe, only to reveal his very own sparkly blue G-string. It not only relaxed me, but it was a complete turn on. Since then, I’ve encouraged him to wear more thong underwear to bed or under his clothes. I’d love him to “floss” a whole lot more, and wear G-strings to work, the movies, shopping, wherever. But’ he’s afraid to be spotted wearing a thong. What percentages of heterosexual men wear thongs? Do other women like it as much? How do I get him to be comfortable enough to keep on “flossing”?

A man is only as sexy as he feels. Most guys I talked with preferred not having a piece of string between their butt cheeks, but who cares what most men do anyway. The only man that matters is the sexy, confidant and thoughtful man you’re dating. If your fiancée likes to wear a piece of string up his butt, who is anybody else to judge him? I, personally, am not a big fan of the man thong, as I prefer to see a bootie in a pair of tight boxers. But if we all liked the same things this world would be a very boring place.

If your boy has a hard time acting comfortable wearing a thong while at his job or shopping for melons, ask him to slip into something sexy before he makes it home. Have him go into the bathroom at the supermarket, or at the office and string up. It’s a compromise and a start, but he’ll be in a thong by the time he sees you, and you’ll get a little more thong time out of him. Eventually, if he likes how much it turns you on, he’ll want to wear one more.

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Increasing Penis Size

I’m aware that women aren’t always satisfied with their cup size, but I never thought a man really cared about the size of his penis. However my boyfriend does and he wants to add at least an inch to his member. He doesn’t want to do surgery, and I know the pumps are useless, but we both want to know if these penis enlargement pills really work. Is there a pill out there that really exists that will increase his length? Are there negative side effects to these pills?

I don’t think you’ll see results like Alice did when she ingested those pills in Wonderland, but some men swear that penis pills work. While I don’t necessarily agree, and wouldn’t suggest taking the pills, I will say that since the mind is the most powerful sex organ, if your boyfriend believes he has doesn’t have enough length, width or girth, chances are he’ll never be completely satisfied without trying something. I don’t know if one pill is safer than another, or the best method out there, but according to the men that love these pills, as long as you have the commitment and time, the pills, combined with some recommended exercises, do bring results. Like I said, I don’t buy it, but If it makes him feel bigger and better than I guess the pills are doing something, if not physically then mentally.

Before ingesting anything, it’d be smart to talk to a trained professional. Asking a doctor or herbalist about the pills will ease your concerns about the negative side effects. And please remind your man that it’s not the size of the wave but the motion of the ocean that makes all the difference. There’s nothing wrong with a four-inch cock or a ten-inch one, as long as the owner of the tool has read all the instructions and knows how to operate the machinery.

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On Gagging

I love to give my man a hummer, and he loves getting it – Duh! He doesn’t always come in my mouth, but when he does I always gag. It’s not that he tastes bad or anything, and I’ve never gotten nauseated from his come. What can I do to not gag anymore? I’m pretty bummed out that he won’t come in my mouth.

First, let me clear my throat.

Okay, now that my attempt at humor has failed, why won’t he come in your mouth? If it doesn’t bother you that you gag, why should it bother him? I like that he’s concerned about your safety, but your boyfriend should know that gagging is simply a reflex triggered by pressure at the back of the tongue or in the throat. If he’s pushing his hard dick way back there, into the dark underbelly of your tonsils, you will eventually gag.

When it’s time for him to ejaculate, have him tell you that he’s about to come. Or, if you can feel how he stiffens right before he explodes , make sure to read his body language and as he reaches that point of no return, move the tip of his penis to the front of your mouth. Use your hands to move up and down his shaft, and wrap your lips around the tip of his head. This is a good trick, because while you continue to stroke his cock with your hand, he continues to feel the warmth and wetness of your oral seduction. Plus, you’ll be able to swallow his come without gagging, all the while you’re still sucking on his hunk of burning love.

The key is to control how much of his shaft enters your mouth. When you grasp his rod with your hands, you control it’s entrance and exit. By not going too deep, you should be able to control your gagging. In the meantime, love the fact that your boyfriend cares enough about you to not want to make your uncomfortable. That’s a pretty cool thing!

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After Sex Clean-Up

After my spouse and I have sex he gets up and gets a cold rough towel to wipe ourselves with. Do you know of anything else out there that we can use for after sex clean up? I would love not to have to do laundry after sex.

Buying softer towels is always an option, but that doesn’t solve the laundry issue. In order to avoid those extra loads, baby wipes, or other gentle cleaning wipes, are an easy solution, especially because they are marketed as sensitive enough for a baby’s bum, and they are easily purchased at supermarkets and drugstores.

If you are looking for a product that was designed with sex in mind, there’s at least one product on the market. It’s called Cum Kleen, and it’s packaged as a neat, disposable “personal wipe for intimate cleansing.” It’s a mildly scented handi-wipe that promises not to burn or alter a woman’s natural pH.

Any way you look at it, wipes are the perfect solution. Use them once and throw them away. There’s no messy cleanup and no extra laundry. Except of course for your dirty bed sheets, but that’s another story.

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Toys for Boys

I know that there are lots of sex toys for women, but what’s a good sex toy for boys?

There is a growing trend for playthings for Misters, and there are lots of toys that can be played with by all the boys and girls. Both men and women have erotic zones that get a charge from vibrators, butt plugs and dildos.

Two of my favorite toys for the XY chromosome are the Aneros, www.aneros.com, and the fleshlight, www.fleshlight.com. The aneros, dubbed the “Male G-Spot Stimulator,” promises an intense anal experience, leading to longer orgasms and heavier ejaculation. It’s small and oddly shaped and made of a hard plastic, and it’s designed to be inserted up the bum to stimulate the prostate.

If being penetrated is not your bag baby, there’s always the fleshlight. Affectionately called “sex in a can,” I have heard that the fleshlight genuinely feels like you’re having sex, either with a butt, a vagina or a mouth. Men that have used this product describe it as a blowjob without the teeth. It’s made of cyberskin, a material that brings you as close to the real thing as you can get without having the real thing, and comes in a variety of shapes. Plus you get to pick the sensation of the skin, from original to super tight or super ribbed.

See, there are lots of options for men, it’s just a matter of figuring out what kind of man you are.

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