January 08, 2022
Crotch stares
I found this email in my inbox this morning (I omitted some of the parts where he goes on about how much he likes my advice, but he did say some really nice things)...
Please don't think I am an arrogant man but I have a lot of female friends and I like them very much. So there is not really a problem but I recognize that each time I meet them there are a lot of moments they look between my legs. This does not bother, I just would say I like it, but I want to know why they do this. I mean, if like a woman I don't look often to her breasts, ok the ass, but not the way they look at my crotch.
Is this the signal, that they are more interested in me than just to be a friend or what. I am not interested in a relationship.
So I would be very thankful if you answer me.
Here goes:
I AM WRITING MY ASSUMPTIONS HERE. I HAVE RECEIVED FOLLOW UP EMAILS AND HAVE NOT BEEN COMPLETELY RIGHT IN WHAT I'VE ASSUMED. I'M ONLY WRITING THIS NOW BECAUSE SAID PERSON WAS UPSET THAT I POSTED A LETTER FROM HIM ON MY BLOG. NOW..BACK TO YOUR REGULARLY SCHEDULED PROGRAM...
First off, thanks for writing.
You say that your female friends spend a lot of time looking between your legs, well, how tight are the pants that you normally wear? I ask this because while I am also guilty of the crotch check every once in a while, most of the time I'm checking out his package if its so obviously stuffed into his jeans or pants that I can't help but stare. What I would deduce from this is that you perhaps have a rather large package that obviously stands out in what you wear. Either that or you have some really tight pants.
You say you like it, so I wouldn't worry about what they're thinking, but odds are they're thinking that you have a rather nice, rather large package. They are probably staring because they can't believe how big it is. And just because you don't stare at breasts doesn't mean that they shouldn't check out your cock, especially if it's screaming "look at me." If this isn't the case, and you're not wearing tight jeans, then maybe you have a hole in your pants, or a stain by your fly, and they're looking at that. But I doubt it, so let them enjoy what you have. And you enjoy the assets they have that you like. If that means your an ass man and not a breast man (it seems that a lot of men are one or the other) than so be it. Just don't make it too obvious when you check out a woman's ass, because that can creep her out.
If you don't want to speak with your female friends about the crotch stares, then perhaps you can ask a male friend. Or maybe there's a way you can ask one of the female friends if there's a reason that other women look at your crotch. But if you have a trusty guy friend that you can ask, I would most definitely ask him.
And as long as your girlfriends know that you aren't looking for a relationship, simply asking them why all the crotch stares shouldn't be that big a deal. I don't think it's a signal that they want a relationship, although it might mean they want to get a good luck and maybe a feel of your package, but staring at your crotch might mean they want to love it, more than they want to love you.
In the meantime enjoy the crotch stares. Although it sounds like you already do.
Posted by jamye at January 8, 2022 02:57 PM